Woman Of this Earth

I have been very privileged in my life to date to be surrounded by many strong women. My grandmother endured so much in her life, her strength her caring nature and her love for God will always be how I remember her.

My Mother when I see my mom, I see my grandmother personified and as the generations of strong women in my family multiply I see strength where giving up is not an option. It’s through these strong women that I have become my own strong woman, a role model for my sister who is equally as strong she isn’t even aware of all she possesses yet, as I watch her beautifully grow to be a fantastic young woman.

My beautiful tribe of women friends I have collected through the years all with their own battles to face but their strength their character and greatness is what drew me close.

Recently helping encourage a close friend of mine going through her battlefield she inspired me to write this poem and I feel like this Poem could represent many strong women of this earth. I feel very strongly connected to all women, and my wish and prayers are that each one of you will know how amazing you are and dig deep to find your strength and unlock your full potential.  You are destined for so much more than just your current circumstances you may find yourself in.

Woman of this Earth

She is brave
She is strong
She is more powerful than she will ever know
She is kind
She cares sometimes too much
She loves with all her heart
She dances to the sound of her own drum
She is stubborn, but she will listen
She is feisty
She is fierce
She is a woman of this earth not afraid to bare her soul
She is real, and she will tell it like it is
She may drink too much
She may curse
But that’s what makes her authentically her
You see she is diamond in the rough the one you may be afraid of at times
But when you dig deep and see past the facade
You will know she hates small talk but loves to talk
She will argue even when she knows she may be wrong
She is passionate
She is pure
She is not ashamed to say she doesn’t know where she is going
She doesn’t let her relationship status or indecisive career define
who she is because you see she is a woman, a woman of this earth made
for so much more
She will dance across the globe spreading joy in her footsteps
because once you see her, meet her, hear her, you will know
She is a woman of this earth destined for so much more,

SO YOU woman of this Earth embrace all your flaws because you are so
beautiful in all your imperfections, you were never made to be perfect
but to be perfectly imperfect.

I hope my post reaches someone, anyone, that needed to hear this and you can start believing how beautiful you are dressed up in all your imperfections.

Peace Love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

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My New Year New Me Message

Just like that the new year is here and all you see is the new year new me posts flying around Instagram and Facebook. When in reality when the silly season draws to a close and everyone goes back to work and get back into the swing of things we know nothing much will change.

But just as I wrote in My Thoughts for you post I really do hope you take some time out to reflect and change, stop complaining and stop dreaming but start doing.

I know it may sound cynical coming from me when it looks like I have my life together and I am whimsically floating through the world,-conquering mountains at -12 degrees to witness the first sunrise of the new year. A Korean Tradition I am glad I  did, but I will add was an extremely painful experience this African was not made for snow and the cold.

I by no means have things figured out I just celebrated a New Year and my birthday making me another year older and another year without the so-called 5-year plan.

Just 2 short months ago I was down and out felt hopelessly lost in my pit of self-pity. I had nothing to jump out of bed for in the morning life was dull and colorless. I was bored, and one of my good friends nicely told me my mind has progressed, but actions still stayed behind. So I was again doing the same things that used to fuel my fire, but I have changed, and my light was out I needed to wake up and do something about it, or I would still be stuck in that terrible depressive state.

I made simple changes, like waking up earlier, exercising in the mornings, meditating and reading. I drew closer to God and started going to Church because I knew that my spiritual side of my life was lacking and I was replacing it with things that no longer made me feel good.

So the point of my story is I had to reach a point where I was tired of complaining and feeling unhappy and make positive changes to get to my happy place again. Where I see, I do have a purpose on this earth and may not be defined in a career path or in my relationship status or anything worldly but that my happiness lies within me my thoughts my actions and how I choose to see the world.

It is so easy to look at the news and all the bad that is happening in the world and think you can’t do anything about it, but if more people changed there mindset, collectively we can do a hell of a lot more than we think we can.

So my New Year New Me message to the world is to set yourself free, I am living proof that a few positive changes can make so much difference to living a healthier more fulfilled life. I even challenged myself to start Muay Thai, and if you know me at all you would be laughing right about now even the instructor with hardly any English knows how to say I hurt his eyes! I learned to let go and try new things a month in, and I am still at it and actually enjoying it who would have guessed.

So go out there and Make 2018 the year you set yourself FREE!!!

Let me know how this year has been thus far and any changes you are making I would like to connect with you all.

Peace Love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

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My thoughts for you for the New Year!

May you take this new year as a new opportunity to try again. Make 2018 the year you set yourself free, free from self-doubt sabotaging thoughts and toxic messes.

Let go of what you cant control, people that bring you down bad relationships that bring out the worst in you.

Let go of fear, for fear is stopping you from all your wildest dreams.Ditch the comfort restraints and start living. Be you, your true authentic self.

Let this be the year you do something you never thought you physically could,may that mean going on your first overseas trip, may that mean running your first half marathon or even something as simple as giving a stranger a smile.

May this year be the year you stop dreaming and start doing. May this be the year you dance through life living loudly not to show off but to be free.

May each changing season inspire you to dream bigger and conquer a fear. May this year be the year you are still and listen to the desires of your heart and set your own soul alight.

May this be the year you live fearlessly not afraid to love deeply and care sincerely. May this be the year you shine brighter than before but don’t fight because when the challanges do come you will be strong in your own strength to defeat even the tallest mountains standing before you.

Yes, as you’re reading this never for a second think you are worthless or you don’t matter because I know there is good in you and even when you don’t believe it or that self-doubt returns remember you are uniquely made crafted with gifts only you have and you have the power to change your destiny. The answers live inside you so start with loving yourself so much you have to share that burning desire to love another.

So these are just a few of my thoughts for you… I hope they make you reflect and make you believe that 2018 can be the year you set yourself free.

As we enter this New Years weekend wherever you are and however you celebrate be safe and Happy New Year!

2018 the year you set yourself FREE!!

 

Peace Love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

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My Thoughts for the New Year!

I want to live free of condemnation, free from fear, free from shame and free from guilt.

I want joy and love to come from my most vulnerable self because this is when I am free to be my authentic self.

I want to to be able to walk into a room with the confidence within that can light it up without a word, I want my love and joy to explode from my inner core. I want to see and feel things that even my wildest dreams could not imagine, I want freedom of the social norms without pressures from anyone.

I want to feel content with my life choices and allow them to lead me where I am needed where my trust is without borders.

I want to allow myself to love deeply, love myself, my family, my friends and any stranger that comes my way.

I want to walk barefoot across the earth and feel every inch of it in my toes, I want the wind to blow through my hair and feel sun kisses and raindrop sprinkles.

I want to fall deeply and madly in love with life, even in the mundane routines of life. I want to go to sleep every night thanking the one most high for the gift of the day and wake up every morning thanking him again for giving me each new day.

I want my love for writing to flourish as this gift I have of words are from above and not be afraid of who may read but be encouraged to share and inspire. I want to use all of me to do good and live an obedient life and even when I slip up I want to ask for forgiveness and graciously pick myself up to start all again.

I want to free myself of worry when the year takes its low turn I want to learn from every lesson, listen carefully to every soul, I want this year ahead to show me I am worth every breath I take and that caring for myself looking after every muscle is important to maintain good health.

I want to practice self-reflection strive for every goal and live whimsically in my dreams and turn them into reality. I want to be wiser and live freer but most importantly I want to live out my God-given mission by filling this world with some love and some hope.

So my thoughts may be dreamy but very practical I want to hold myself accountable this year not to give up so easily.This year ahead will mean change but I am praying for a good change one that will invigorate my spirit and give me the life I will be proud of and put me on the right path to keep walking out my heavenly Father’s plan.

 

Peace Love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

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My Thoughts This Festive Season

As we head into the Christmas weekend full of festive cheer I was thinking of this time of year as I make plans to meet with friends and do my last minute Christmas shopping.  These are my thoughts for this festive time.

My thoughts for this festive season are with you near and far.

For I know how it feels to be alone around this time of year, away from what you may normally do or around the people you usually spend these festive times with.

So my thoughts are with you when you feeling lonely or sad come Christmas morning I hope you don’t dwell on the loneliness the holidays can bring.

My thoughts are with you those that don’t get to spend this time with family or friends but if you have the time tell them you care.

My thoughts are with you the one that wakes up alone again and longs for that partner to share the special holidays with. Remember your worth is not measured by the fact that you may be single come again another Christmas day.

My thoughts are with you the child without parents the child that will never know how it feels to rise full of excitement on Christmas day or struggling to sleep on Christmas eve.

My thoughts are with you the ones that are old and cannot enjoy a Christmas meal because the pain is just unreal.

My thoughts are with you the ones forced to miss another family moment because of work obligations I hope your family can see all you have done to sacrifice for them.

My thoughts are with those who get to enjoy special family moments cherish these times together make them happy make them count for tomorrow is never promised.

So my thoughts are with you all however you spend this festive time I pray its good and not sad but most of all I wish you all a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

 

Peace Love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

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Malaysia a Lonely Paradise

Since my last travel post in January and enlightening trip to the Philippines. I knew I had to go somewhere for my summer break after the rocky start to this year I have had. Saying goodbye to best friends and deciding to stay another year in Korea it has all been a bit rough trying to navigate through my life. The ever-busy Korean life I lead I felt it was just time to reset the clock.

I wanted to go to Bali for like ever, but the prices were just insane, so I had a dream about Malaysia googled some spots and booked a ticket all in the same week. I am still dreaming of the bustling city of KL and the dreamy beaches of the Perhentian where I went.

Like most trips I take this one was off to a rocky start after booking the wrong date for my bus to the airport which I will add is four hours away. I had no choice but to take a cab or risk the chance of missing my flight, so a very very expensive taxi ride later with some panic at 3 am in the morning I made it and caught my flight at 9 am.

After my bumpy start, I cast my fears aside and decided to turn this trip around and enjoy a new city. I arrived in Kuala Lumpur and headed to my hostel which was in a bustling part of town the tourist district, I checked in spoke to my new roommates and then headed out for a wonder. The place was bustling full of people many places to eat and markets and shops everywhere. It all seemed somewhat familiar reminded me of Cape Town in a small way for starters they drive on the same side of the road as I do at home, so that was a little comfort.

I found the food market just behind my hostel, and it was a vast array of every type of middle eastern and Asian food. It was great I walked around then found a spot and had some Thai food in Malaysia, yes I know I was silly, but I just could not make up my mind with all the smells and people all around.  That night I sat and just watched as everyone enjoyed.

The next day I went to the Batu Caves and walked up all those stairs it was beautiful and getting there using public transport was so easy. It was also nice to be in a place where most people can speak English. My Malay Indian roots did stick out as I got mistaken to be Malaysian on numerous occasions.

That night I went to the Petronas Towers it was so magical to finally to see it up close and personal after seeing it on blogs and pictures and textbooks for ages. I sat and watched everyone get their pictures and then I made my way back to my hotel. That night I just sat chatting to the guys in my room one guy was at the end of his trip heading back to England another in the middle of his, I helped him plan bits of his next leg of the journey as I had been to the places he was to visit next.

Then I was off early the next morning to the Perhentian islands for a week of rejuvenation sun and relaxation. I had paid a pretty penny for my accommodation as I was told the usual hostels are not the cleanest. After a flight and long drive and boat trip, I successfully made it to my new home for the week.I checked in at the Ombak Resort in Coral Bay on the Perhentian Kecil Island the smaller island there are two.

It was lovely spot on the beach now these islands are a very popular diving spot it’s one of the biggest drawcards. On my arrival I was asked if I was alone, I said yes then went to the bar restaurant area for my welcome drink I got two because they assumed I was not alone haha score for me.I went for a swim in the warm waters just a stone throw away from my hotel and watched everyone around me. There were many couples and families it was nice just to finally be still.

Each night they screened a movie at my hotel outside, and I would sit and watch while having dinner and a drink then as the evening came it started to thunderstorm as I made my way back to my room. I did pretty much the same thing each day went on one snorkeling trip that was fun made it to the blue lagoon the most beautiful bright blue waters I have ever seen it was a magical day.

I quickly had to remind myself that this was just a moment, not my everything and that being comfortably alone is good for my soul especially taking a break from my busy life in Korea. That being still is needed to restart and refocus.

I enjoyed this trip, but it was very different to most of my other solo trips where I meet people and make friends this trip I was alone for most of it as most of the travelers all went out doing their diving certification, and every night it rained so I was inside. I felt very lonely watching couples in love and families bonding. It made me miss my family so much and miss having a partner to share this magic with.

Looking back now even though I enjoyed my trip I wish I was more present and mindful of everything even when not much was happening. I wish I didn’t long for what others had like a partner, a friend or my family. I wish I was more content with me and being there.

So my lesson that I learned from this trip is that every adventure doesn’t have to be a crazy party, or enlightening encounter or something mind-blowing to be enjoyed. That being still and quiet I can enjoy it. It just takes a shift in my mind a moment of refocusing that the real joy is sometimes lying dormant inside. If I can take a single moment to just be more present, I can be overjoyed without having to depend on a moment or a person or a thing to make me enjoy a trip or anything in my daily life.

Peace Love & Happiness

Cherry ♥IMG_9017

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My First 547.5 Days in Korea!

I have wanted to write this for ages but just didn’t know where to start you know… So much has happened in the last year and a half that I still don’t quite know how to put that all together but anyways here is my attempt.

When I arrived and settled into my city made a few friends reconnected with old I felt like I belonged somewhere for the first time ever. Many of my nights were a blur too much partying and having a good time one would say, but I loved every crazy moment of the emotional roller coaster I was on. I was happy, and I was becoming more and more the person I am today. My last year in my 20’s young wild and free, I traveled to many amazing Korean cities from the North (not North Korea) to the south and everything in between.

Every weekend was another festival or adventure (nothing much has changed it still is) This is what I like about living here no time is wasted. I do get exhausted and feel I need a break from my own life but this is living to me from camping trips to the beach to international music festivals in Seoul life here is good, and the people I have met are great.

Then you get the sad goodbyes because the reality of this life is nothing is stable you continue living an unstable life trying to somewhat be stable. But just like life where ever or however you choose to live it nothing is guaranteed even in the mundane routine of life, change is inevitable and will happen when you prepared or not.

This past year also brought so much joy my best friend from home got to visit me earlier this year and my cousin not too long ago, so that was amazing getting to show them the life I have made for myself here. I also got to marry my best friends in the most amazing impromptu beautiful lesbian wedding ever. I have never felt so much love in one room and a memory I will cherish dearly forever. Even though the marriage is not legal, it was real to everyone present in that place.

What else happened in this past year, after my extreme high I hit real low questioning life should I stay or should go.I decided to stay, and I know financially that was the smart move.I don’t have much of a plan moving forward if I choose to leave I want to be financially stable on my own. So I have stepped up the saving game, so when I do go, I have a nest egg to fall on where ever my journey may lead me.

I also went to Malaysia a short but well-needed trip as I did not get a break between contracts more about that in another post.

The best news yet I gifted my mom with a trip to visit she came in October during Chuseok Korean Thanks, Giving. It lined up perfectly giving us a week off including two weekends. I spent a few days in Seoul showing my mom the best spots and boy did she love the shopping, don’t think she was a fan of all the walking we did. We did a few day trips to Gyeongju and Namhae my favorite little island and then spent a great weekend in Busan. It was great two weeks bonding with my mom and showing her the life I have made for myself here.

So yip this year was challenging work is still treating me fine and generally, I am happy. I miss my friends that have left and the year, and a half that has passed, but I am excited to see what the next few months have in store for me and maybe some more clarity on what to do when this year draws to a close. But for now, I will continue to live life loudly and proudly because every day on this earth is a gift from God. So I am thankful for my last couple of hundred days grateful for family visits, friends, skiing for the first time dancing and laughing until my tummy hurts. Thank You, Korea!

Peace Love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

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