The Fuck Boy the Hot Girl and the Friend Zone!

We live in a delusional, made up superficial, social media fake world! Where the fuck boy rules, the hot girl scores and the friend zone is real. It’s like the high school chick flick of the new age! You sit watching from the outside and see what’s going on its a joke.

 It’s hard trying to date in this era where dating isn’t OK open relationships, one night stands and no strings attached is the norm. You try finding a future wife or husband in this day and age it’s like looking for the mysterious pot of gold at the end of the rainbow virtually impossible.

The nice guy the guy that’s the gentleman that believes that chivalry isn’t dead that love is real not something you say when listening to your favorite song or eating your favorite meal. But the love you experience when you meet a potential soul mate the real kind of I can’t eat, can’t sleep, love that love that will weather every storm. It’s unspoken of because heaven forbids you say the L word that’s not cool or start catching them feelings as the kids on the streets refer to it these days.

 Those people exist though and do you want to know where you will find them? I ‘ll give you one guess. In the friend zone! Every fuck boy has a girl best friend who has been crushing so hard she’s settled for the FZone praying secretly for that one day when his done being a stupid fuck boy and he will notice her. Vice versa the hottest girl at the party will have a guy bestie secretly crushing on her, and so the vicious cycle goes.

For those that do find that love hold on to it, cherish it, be kind to each other, respect each other and communicate with each other! Getting back in the dating world is hard work, and  nobody is ready for if you have been out of the game for awhile.

Where do I find myself in this tangled mess of dating in the new age you may ask? I am the girl that gets friend zoned I am the girl who friends zones at times. For ages I was oblivious to this world called dating just living vicariously through my girlfriends love lives and to be honest, it just felt like too much work!

 So I live my life, I never go out with the intention of finding anyone. I enjoy my life to the fullest, and through finding myself, I seem to be the hot girl at the party. I am not though, I am confident at times, I am far from perfect but I love the person I am becoming, I make my rules and yes I fall into the traps of the new age dating world at times.

When you figure out what you want and just live your best life people will notice you. You will attract the best people into your life, and if you lucky you may find that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow the trick is not to compromise who you are to fit into this delusional cesspool of new age dating.

Once you know your worth, you will see that the hot girl at the party and the fuck boys of this world are just as lonely as the peeps in the friend zone! 

So if you single AF don’t hate it focus on you have fun do all the things you want to do while you have the freedom of being single. Life is great alone and with someone but only when you love yourself are you capable of loving another. So that’s why we have this delusional world of dating right now it’s because people don’t believe they good enough for themselves and they go out to fill a void by hooking up with as many people as they can.

Excuse my profanities in the title and in this piece I don’t usually swear but this just wouldn’t give this piece the correct dramatic effect without it.

I hope you enjoyed my view on dating in this day and age. Interested to hear what you think? let me know in the comments below.I will be back with some travel updates soon, Thanks for reading!

 

Peace love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

 

9f39de3b311f8ca756e5203729a0882132a68d2935813c3e0775793c1e0eb086

When God Sends you Unicorns!

I never openly write about Christianity you will find reference to God in my writing because I believe in God I was brought up in the church as I went to Sunday school had the perfect grandma who read me bible stories, so God was never foreign to me my entire life!

I went astray from the church as I got older life happens things change but by the glory of God I am here today!  Just because I strayed from the church didn’t mean God left me! I was a church seat filler for s few years or the few times I would go to church words falling on deaf ears mostly. Until I went to a different church, and slowly my ears opened and things started to make more sense to me and worship music was good things were good God started planting seeds in my life, I still wasn’t fully there yet, but he never gave up on me like he never gives up you!

He led me to China the place that I never wanted to go to do a job I didn’t think I could do but he led me there it’s only by his mercies it worked out for the best! I then I said lead me where you need me, and I ended up here South Korea 6 months after my 15-month adventure around South East Asia!

Now I sit and think what’s my purpose here am I doing a good job since he led me here! I have changed for the better because of him something is going right. I am by no means a good Christian I don’t think you get one because you can’t be perfect only God can be perfect.I sin daily I say words I should not, I eat too much, sometimes drink too much I find myself gossiping and be judgmental which I hate but do these bad things make me a bad person? NO

No, it doesn’t because I sin and pray and talk to God to help me in these areas doesn’t take away that I am kind loyal honest friendly forgiving happy awesome and beautiful the way he made me! So I can’t deny for one minute I am not a daughter of a mighty God I can’t doubt he made me a queen, a strong independent women it’s not me its all him. I will never try to make you a believer or bible bash you into believing in my King but if you spend some time with me and you like me know that I am not this great on my own I am this great because God made me this way and finally saying it out loud and proudly,I am daughter a queen of God!!’

Sometimes God blesses you with unicorn moments or unicorns just to show you his alive and watching over you . I don’t strive to be perfect because I will never be but the day I decided to eliminate my life from the BS and be 100% me,myself life changed and even if you don’t believe in a God or you believe in your version of God through me I can make you believe in something!!

Peace love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

a47b2c0f-0ae2-4d71-bcbd-f69d6e7b7eb1