My New Year New Me Message

Just like that the new year is here and all you see is the new year new me posts flying around Instagram and Facebook. When in reality when the silly season draws to a close and everyone goes back to work and get back into the swing of things we know nothing much will change.

But just as I wrote in My Thoughts for you post I really do hope you take some time out to reflect and change, stop complaining and stop dreaming but start doing.

I know it may sound cynical coming from me when it looks like I have my life together and I am whimsically floating through the world,-conquering mountains at -12 degrees to witness the first sunrise of the new year. A Korean Tradition I am glad I  did, but I will add was an extremely painful experience this African was not made for snow and the cold.

I by no means have things figured out I just celebrated a New Year and my birthday making me another year older and another year without the so-called 5-year plan.

Just 2 short months ago I was down and out felt hopelessly lost in my pit of self-pity. I had nothing to jump out of bed for in the morning life was dull and colorless. I was bored, and one of my good friends nicely told me my mind has progressed, but actions still stayed behind. So I was again doing the same things that used to fuel my fire, but I have changed, and my light was out I needed to wake up and do something about it, or I would still be stuck in that terrible depressive state.

I made simple changes, like waking up earlier, exercising in the mornings, meditating and reading. I drew closer to God and started going to Church because I knew that my spiritual side of my life was lacking and I was replacing it with things that no longer made me feel good.

So the point of my story is I had to reach a point where I was tired of complaining and feeling unhappy and make positive changes to get to my happy place again. Where I see, I do have a purpose on this earth and may not be defined in a career path or in my relationship status or anything worldly but that my happiness lies within me my thoughts my actions and how I choose to see the world.

It is so easy to look at the news and all the bad that is happening in the world and think you can’t do anything about it, but if more people changed there mindset, collectively we can do a hell of a lot more than we think we can.

So my New Year New Me message to the world is to set yourself free, I am living proof that a few positive changes can make so much difference to living a healthier more fulfilled life. I even challenged myself to start Muay Thai, and if you know me at all you would be laughing right about now even the instructor with hardly any English knows how to say I hurt his eyes! I learned to let go and try new things a month in, and I am still at it and actually enjoying it who would have guessed.

So go out there and Make 2018 the year you set yourself FREE!!!

Let me know how this year has been thus far and any changes you are making I would like to connect with you all.

Peace Love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

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My First 547.5 Days in Korea!

I have wanted to write this for ages but just didn’t know where to start you know… So much has happened in the last year and a half that I still don’t quite know how to put that all together but anyways here is my attempt.

When I arrived and settled into my city made a few friends reconnected with old I felt like I belonged somewhere for the first time ever. Many of my nights were a blur too much partying and having a good time one would say, but I loved every crazy moment of the emotional roller coaster I was on. I was happy, and I was becoming more and more the person I am today. My last year in my 20’s young wild and free, I traveled to many amazing Korean cities from the North (not North Korea) to the south and everything in between.

Every weekend was another festival or adventure (nothing much has changed it still is) This is what I like about living here no time is wasted. I do get exhausted and feel I need a break from my own life but this is living to me from camping trips to the beach to international music festivals in Seoul life here is good, and the people I have met are great.

Then you get the sad goodbyes because the reality of this life is nothing is stable you continue living an unstable life trying to somewhat be stable. But just like life where ever or however you choose to live it nothing is guaranteed even in the mundane routine of life, change is inevitable and will happen when you prepared or not.

This past year also brought so much joy my best friend from home got to visit me earlier this year and my cousin not too long ago, so that was amazing getting to show them the life I have made for myself here. I also got to marry my best friends in the most amazing impromptu beautiful lesbian wedding ever. I have never felt so much love in one room and a memory I will cherish dearly forever. Even though the marriage is not legal, it was real to everyone present in that place.

What else happened in this past year, after my extreme high I hit real low questioning life should I stay or should go.I decided to stay, and I know financially that was the smart move.I don’t have much of a plan moving forward if I choose to leave I want to be financially stable on my own. So I have stepped up the saving game, so when I do go, I have a nest egg to fall on where ever my journey may lead me.

I also went to Malaysia a short but well-needed trip as I did not get a break between contracts more about that in another post.

The best news yet I gifted my mom with a trip to visit she came in October during Chuseok Korean Thanks, Giving. It lined up perfectly giving us a week off including two weekends. I spent a few days in Seoul showing my mom the best spots and boy did she love the shopping, don’t think she was a fan of all the walking we did. We did a few day trips to Gyeongju and Namhae my favorite little island and then spent a great weekend in Busan. It was great two weeks bonding with my mom and showing her the life I have made for myself here.

So yip this year was challenging work is still treating me fine and generally, I am happy. I miss my friends that have left and the year, and a half that has passed, but I am excited to see what the next few months have in store for me and maybe some more clarity on what to do when this year draws to a close. But for now, I will continue to live life loudly and proudly because every day on this earth is a gift from God. So I am thankful for my last couple of hundred days grateful for family visits, friends, skiing for the first time dancing and laughing until my tummy hurts. Thank You, Korea!

Peace Love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

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My festive season hopscotching through Korea!

Where have I been? (good question) I have been living life in the fast lane but its time to get back to this sharing some tid bits from my life abroad and other travel and inspirations that inspire me to write. I promise to be better at updating I have big hopes and dreams for this blog I best get the started no more excuses. So here we go first of many posts I have lined up. To set the scene let’s go back in time to about  Late December early January.

My festive season, it was such a crazy month of hop scotch through Korea as if I was the KTX going at high speed!

Started off with a 12 pubs of Christmas bar crawl singing Christmas carols in the streets of Downtown Daegu a week before Christmas and then my Christmas spent in Cheongju with my girls we dubbed it “Queensmas”it was a fun weekend we even had a proper Christmas meal from turkey to roast beef and all the trimmings.

 My first Christmas in years that felt like Christmas from gifts to the food and the friends that felt like family!! 

Then my best friend from home came for a visit it was great to have a piece of home with me and show her around! We celebrated New Years in Busan lit lanterns on the beach (clearly a new tradition of mine) and danced the night away making new friends and great memories! Needless to say, a very hungover New Year’s Day was filled with tons of greasy food and laughs about the night before.

The next week I had to work but it was nice coming home and taking my friend for walks and listening to her tell me about new discoveries she found wandering the streets of my new home she even got a cheeky tattoo from the infamous Daegu Tattoo from Artist K who speaks no English and has a side guy who does all the speaking this place is very well known especially around the expat community.

I was so proud to see her get lost and dive into a very foreign country nothing like South Africa or the touristy stops that everyone is used to. She got to truly experience my new life and made really good memories.

We spent our last weekend in Seoul shopping eating way too much and buying all the crazy Korean socks! As soon as she arrived she left again but we had great fun!

One of the highlights was having her here for my birthday too she really did spoil me from breakfast to gifts and it really made me feel special. The last thing anyone wants on their birthday is to be alone and even better I had my best friend from home. I am not a big Birthday person but it was nice to have a low-key Korean BBQ and drinks with my close friends.

And just like that the year was kicked off at record breaking fast speed I didn’t even know what was happening all while working our extended hours because my hogwan (korean after-school academy) does a winter camp program while the kids are on their winter break.

While I was truly happy and living life I was burning out quick trying to burn the candle on both ends of the stick in my social and work life. I needed to pause take stock and get out of the depressing cold so what did I do I hopped on a plane to the Phillippines for a week of rejuvenation more about that soon.

Peace love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

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