My First 547.5 Days in Korea!

I have wanted to write this for ages but just didn’t know where to start you know… So much has happened in the last year and a half that I still don’t quite know how to put that all together but anyways here is my attempt.

When I arrived and settled into my city made a few friends reconnected with old I felt like I belonged somewhere for the first time ever. Many of my nights were a blur too much partying and having a good time one would say, but I loved every crazy moment of the emotional roller coaster I was on. I was happy, and I was becoming more and more the person I am today. My last year in my 20’s young wild and free, I traveled to many amazing Korean cities from the North (not North Korea) to the south and everything in between.

Every weekend was another festival or adventure (nothing much has changed it still is) This is what I like about living here no time is wasted. I do get exhausted and feel I need a break from my own life but this is living to me from camping trips to the beach to international music festivals in Seoul life here is good, and the people I have met are great.

Then you get the sad goodbyes because the reality of this life is nothing is stable you continue living an unstable life trying to somewhat be stable. But just like life where ever or however you choose to live it nothing is guaranteed even in the mundane routine of life, change is inevitable and will happen when you prepared or not.

This past year also brought so much joy my best friend from home got to visit me earlier this year and my cousin not too long ago, so that was amazing getting to show them the life I have made for myself here. I also got to marry my best friends in the most amazing impromptu beautiful lesbian wedding ever. I have never felt so much love in one room and a memory I will cherish dearly forever. Even though the marriage is not legal, it was real to everyone present in that place.

What else happened in this past year, after my extreme high I hit real low questioning life should I stay or should go.I decided to stay, and I know financially that was the smart move.I don’t have much of a plan moving forward if I choose to leave I want to be financially stable on my own. So I have stepped up the saving game, so when I do go, I have a nest egg to fall on where ever my journey may lead me.

I also went to Malaysia a short but well-needed trip as I did not get a break between contracts more about that in another post.

The best news yet I gifted my mom with a trip to visit she came in October during Chuseok Korean Thanks, Giving. It lined up perfectly giving us a week off including two weekends. I spent a few days in Seoul showing my mom the best spots and boy did she love the shopping, don’t think she was a fan of all the walking we did. We did a few day trips to Gyeongju and Namhae my favorite little island and then spent a great weekend in Busan. It was great two weeks bonding with my mom and showing her the life I have made for myself here.

So yip this year was challenging work is still treating me fine and generally, I am happy. I miss my friends that have left and the year, and a half that has passed, but I am excited to see what the next few months have in store for me and maybe some more clarity on what to do when this year draws to a close. But for now, I will continue to live life loudly and proudly because every day on this earth is a gift from God. So I am thankful for my last couple of hundred days grateful for family visits, friends, skiing for the first time dancing and laughing until my tummy hurts. Thank You, Korea!

Peace Love & Happiness

Cherry ♥






At What Cost…

Life is a strange thing. People often telling you live each day as if it’s your last. For some people it is very easy because what they do everyday is something that they love doing and for those that have found it you are truly blessed.

For many people finding a job to just make ends meat is the reality we live in today. I commend those that despite their situation still make it in life even if it is only in small way it is better than nothing.The life you want to live ultimately comes down to the choices you make for yourself. Don’t allow your circumstances to define you.

It is so easy to get stuck in a rut and be defined by mundane living, selling your soul to a system of  a corporate institution and living for greed and money. Yes we all need money to survive and it makes life easier but at what cost to you.

I live a great life all thanks to my parents. Lately I have seen my step dad give his life to his work, even when we are having family time I can see his present but his mind is probably still on work. Every minute he gets his on his laptop because he just has too much work to do.

This made me think, what kind of life are you living when you give all of it to job that abuses you but you give it everything. Is it worth it… You only have one life and yes giving up is not always recommended but you need a balance. When the scales of life are not balanced things that will show you, you need to slow down will.

God works in mysterious ways. I remember about 2 years ago giving everything to my job but still not being good enough and the stress that came made me despise my job.My body started giving up on me slowly I was diagnosed with asthma and depression, this was a very low part in my life’s journey. I had to make a choice, for me it was hard but I had to leave that job staying there was killing my spirit everyday.

I saw this happening to my Step dad but because he’s such a strong person and never allowed people to step on him at work or life it is easy to assume that he had it covered and it was just another day in the office.

Until something scary happened and he had to be rushed to hospital to get all sorts of tests done. It was scary to see him in such a vulnerable position in hospital. It is life changing and  we are so grateful it is not as serious as it could have been. Nonetheless this is a sign from God, he needs to put his life first and take better care of himself. It was an eye opener for the entire family.

As we continue to pray for his recovery. I pray he opens his eyes and realizes his family will rather see him happy then a slave to a job that is killing him slowly, piece by piece and together we will look after each other. So here I sit writing this thanking God, that this was just a scare and his safely at home recovering with all of us by his side.

This situation puts life into perspective. We so easily get caught up in life and go on without taking a step back and actually asking yourself, why you doing certain things. It is very important that you are happy and keep praying to god in good and bad times for guidance.

Biggest life lesson to date don’t take life for granted it can be taken away from of us in a heartbeat. God had to remind us that he has a plan for his children by doing this to our family so we can take a step back and let God take control of his life before he hurts himself further.

So while we go through this time of stepping back and re-evaluation,this will teach us all to make wise decisions, look after ourselves and trust God because life is not in our control.


Cherry ♥