The Fuck Boy the Hot Girl and the Friend Zone!

We live in a delusional, made up superficial, social media fake world! Where the fuck boy rules, the hot girl scores and the friend zone is real. It’s like the high school chick flick of the new age! You sit watching from the outside and see what’s going on its a joke.

 It’s hard trying to date in this era where dating isn’t OK open relationships, one night stands and no strings attached is the norm. You try finding a future wife or husband in this day and age it’s like looking for the mysterious pot of gold at the end of the rainbow virtually impossible.

The nice guy the guy that’s the gentleman that believes that chivalry isn’t dead that love is real not something you say when listening to your favorite song or eating your favorite meal. But the love you experience when you meet a potential soul mate the real kind of I can’t eat, can’t sleep, love that love that will weather every storm. It’s unspoken of because heaven forbids you say the L word that’s not cool or start catching them feelings as the kids on the streets refer to it these days.

 Those people exist though and do you want to know where you will find them? I ‘ll give you one guess. In the friend zone! Every fuck boy has a girl best friend who has been crushing so hard she’s settled for the FZone praying secretly for that one day when his done being a stupid fuck boy and he will notice her. Vice versa the hottest girl at the party will have a guy bestie secretly crushing on her, and so the vicious cycle goes.

For those that do find that love hold on to it, cherish it, be kind to each other, respect each other and communicate with each other! Getting back in the dating world is hard work, and  nobody is ready for if you have been out of the game for awhile.

Where do I find myself in this tangled mess of dating in the new age you may ask? I am the girl that gets friend zoned I am the girl who friends zones at times. For ages I was oblivious to this world called dating just living vicariously through my girlfriends love lives and to be honest, it just felt like too much work!

 So I live my life, I never go out with the intention of finding anyone. I enjoy my life to the fullest, and through finding myself, I seem to be the hot girl at the party. I am not though, I am confident at times, I am far from perfect but I love the person I am becoming, I make my rules and yes I fall into the traps of the new age dating world at times.

When you figure out what you want and just live your best life people will notice you. You will attract the best people into your life, and if you lucky you may find that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow the trick is not to compromise who you are to fit into this delusional cesspool of new age dating.

Once you know your worth, you will see that the hot girl at the party and the fuck boys of this world are just as lonely as the peeps in the friend zone! 

So if you single AF don’t hate it focus on you have fun do all the things you want to do while you have the freedom of being single. Life is great alone and with someone but only when you love yourself are you capable of loving another. So that’s why we have this delusional world of dating right now it’s because people don’t believe they good enough for themselves and they go out to fill a void by hooking up with as many people as they can.

Excuse my profanities in the title and in this piece I don’t usually swear but this just wouldn’t give this piece the correct dramatic effect without it.

I hope you enjoyed my view on dating in this day and age. Interested to hear what you think? let me know in the comments below.I will be back with some travel updates soon, Thanks for reading!

 

Peace love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

 

9f39de3b311f8ca756e5203729a0882132a68d2935813c3e0775793c1e0eb086

Motivational Monday – Into the Depths of My Soul

BeFunky_544134_10200913537351628_1999827893_n.jpg

As some of you may know this Blog was originally created  2 years ago by myself Thalea but as a joined platform for myself and my sister Courteney to share things we feel we want share with the world.It may be read by just one person near or far but our main aim is to inspire all those around us. It may be through a travel diary experience, life’s weird and wacky way of teaching us valuable lessons or through fashion and photography anything we really feel passionate about.

We just 2 ordinary girls trying to do extra ordinary things.

Courteney sent me this beautiful piece she wrote and I am so excited to share it with all of you hope you enjoy it!

“Into the Depths of My Soul

One thing I have come to know is that looks are not everything.  But rather it’s about the beauty that shines out you from within.

I no longer want to be the girl you know from Instagram or a random facebook friend. There is more to me than what you see or the assumptions you make about me.

I want you to see my soul when you look at me, see past my face, race and just see me for me.

Our generation has become a bunch of pretenders who are Consumed by likes and followers and selfies emphasis on the “self”
More like selfish… What happened to self-worth & self-respect?

Life is short and I know you have heard it all before. But I for one know that life can be long too and there is so much you could do. So many people you could have spoken to when you were looking down at your Phone or an awkward smile you could have given to someone that surely brightened up their day.

I am starting with my inside then working my way out. I am choosing to focus on my soul to improve what really counts.

Do you have WIFI? I bet that sounds familiar but what I’m trying to say is
“Why-fit-in?”

God made you just the way you are. Why conform and settle to be part of the norm.

I refuse to compete against anyone I am me & you are you for a reason! I was fearfully and wonderfully made and I aim to stay grounded & never be swayed.

Imagine everyone loved everyone the same way God loves you… Let that sink in I bet you wish it was true.

My soul is what goes to heaven not the physical features I may have
So why worry about the outside when your inside is all you truly have.

My soul is lined with the message of Proverbs 30:31- “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is vain; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.”

It’s just a start Its far from the end for I agree to end the great pretend.
– Courteney

Peace love and Happiness

Cherry ♥

6e01f6a436e89d9ae0fc5a13419e04c1

Getting out of your Comfort Zone

lifebeginssmall

I feel so out of touch with this blog I do apologise for this; life in China has been chaos as can be expected. Since I have been back from holiday in Shanghai reality had to set in.

Adapting has been tough but as time passes by and boy does time pass by extremely fast here it has been such a good experience. I love living here, getting lost has been so frustrating but so good at the same time.

I have been here for just over a month now and have done so many things that are out of my comfort zone, it’s extremely scary, but it makes my journey here worth it. I bought a pink bicycle and cycle, everywhere. Try cycling in peak time traffic with so many people cars, buses and taxis it’s intense.

Teaching that has now become my job is so far out of my comfort zone its crazy and I ask myself every day what am I doing. Things have been so hard for me I put so much pressure on myself to get things right but when I step in that classroom, I just have to roll with the punches and do my best. I have good days and bad days, and I know with time things will get easier or so I keep praying. I have a new found respect for teachers I had no idea what a tough job this would be. From preparing lessons to managing the classroom its no easy task. Then I keep thinking to myself I didn’t come halfway around the world give up I just need to keep moving forward.

We have been fortunate and blessed with awesome work people the foreign staff and the locals are awesome. We speak English all day in the office that I sometimes forget I am in China until I need to go to the toilet and need to squat still slowly getting used to the long drop toilets

Life in China is so different, and I can’t explain it, it feels like I am living in a dream, like I am not here LOL. I don’t miss home just yet more the friends and family I have left behind and missing pivotal moments..Like hearing my dearest sister Courteney who competed in a talent competition last week got a call back to compete in the international competition in Florida USA and potentially has an opportunity to attend the New York Film Academy. She truly inspires me not give up and to continue to peruse my passions as she is doing.

One thing I have learnt on my journey here and getting to this point is not to give up. Believing in yourself is truly important and even though you may not have the plan fully mapped out when you have a goal and God on your team he will provide a way for you.

I had to move to China a million miles away to get out of my comfort zone and I can feel I am turning into a stronger person because of the obstacles I need to overcome. I urge you to get out of your comfort zone no matter how big or small it is try and do something that will challenge you in some way.

I am always keen to hear what it could be so let me know in the comments.

I will defiantly be posting soon I went to an amusement park today so I will fill you all in on that soon!

Peace love and Happiness

Cherry ♥

Why we are Here – A Reminder to Me and You

I read somewhere that January is the month of living in the clouds because it’s a new year, and you make all these promises to yourself. So you pretty happy because you have not given up on yourself just yet.

I have been beaming with excitement ever since I got home from my trip. I have been more focused on my life and what I want to accomplish with it. I know the journey will not be easy, and I do not want to burn out again.Time for an action plan as I seem to want to do so many things and then never get started and I fear that may happen.

Last night I worked till 10 pm after my day job ended I rushed home to take a quick shower and then off to a meeting at my church, I am the new leader of the kids ministry I have been doing it for years now so just had to touch base on plans for the year. Then off to Sister Incorporated where I volunteer with the kids. It was so good to be back feeling like God welcomed me home. Sad to see one little boy and his mom has left the home. I grew so fond of him, but all I can do now is pray that they safely in God’s hands.

Then after that I rushed off to another meeting. This one was to discuss future plans for the Out Of Africa Dance Academy as we rolling into pre show mode which is going to be hectic again. So I was done by the time I got home could hardly utter two words.
My mom aka my guardian angel posted this picture on my Facebook wall that was very profound to me. The Quote; “God would not have put a dream in your heart if He hadn’t already given you everything you need to fulfil it”

1378592_10153831864225227_1257625374_n
CherryHearts was born in my heart 3 years ago with the help of the great friend. We were both going through hell at the time. We played around with the idea of me owning my own business one day and thought of names and CherryHearts was born.

I recently met up with him for lunch, and we caught up, he saw me at my lowest and I saw him in his weakest form too. He told me he recently started following my blog and very happy with what I have done and the name. He could not believe how much I have changed, from a scared girl stuck in doomed job to this confident women.(his words not mine)

I explained my vision to him, I call it a lifestyle blog because I love many things. My true aim is that Courteney and I through our various god gifted talents can start a movement of hope and inspiration for all who meet us in person, read one article, sees one picture or video. We are 2 ordinary girls meeting other ordinary girls and guys along the way and we all doing extraordinary things. We all have stories to share and through that we will help, encourage, and build one another up.

Our vision; Is to inspire one and all by giving everyone hope that today can start your better tomorrow.

I don’t do this to be famous one day I do this because 3 years ago God used two broken people to plant a seed in our lives that change was coming, hope will be seen, and you can create anything you put your mind to and conquer all your fears.
I see things so much clearer now, I have confidence in myself I knew was there, but has finally come to the surface.

I was never sure about anything until I started doing this, writing, enjoying life, sharing my story with everyone. One day I would love to own my own CherryHearts foundation. A safe haven for teen girls from all backgrounds, dealing with anything and everything related to being women and equipping them with skills to be confident, educated young women and giving them hope that you can rise above your circumstances.

I don’t know where I will be in the future, if things will change and I am sure I will change too, but I do know for a fact God has put a dream in my heart and my plan is to fulfill it.

I just had the burst of inspiration to reflect and write this so extra post this week. It is reminder to me what CherryHearts is and hope it is interesting for you to hear the back story behind my journey.

Peace love & Happiness

Cherry ♥