My New Year New Me Message

Just like that the new year is here and all you see is the new year new me posts flying around Instagram and Facebook. When in reality when the silly season draws to a close and everyone goes back to work and get back into the swing of things we know nothing much will change.

But just as I wrote in My Thoughts for you post I really do hope you take some time out to reflect and change, stop complaining and stop dreaming but start doing.

I know it may sound cynical coming from me when it looks like I have my life together and I am whimsically floating through the world,-conquering mountains at -12 degrees to witness the first sunrise of the new year. A Korean Tradition I am glad I  did, but I will add was an extremely painful experience this African was not made for snow and the cold.

I by no means have things figured out I just celebrated a New Year and my birthday making me another year older and another year without the so-called 5-year plan.

Just 2 short months ago I was down and out felt hopelessly lost in my pit of self-pity. I had nothing to jump out of bed for in the morning life was dull and colorless. I was bored, and one of my good friends nicely told me my mind has progressed, but actions still stayed behind. So I was again doing the same things that used to fuel my fire, but I have changed, and my light was out I needed to wake up and do something about it, or I would still be stuck in that terrible depressive state.

I made simple changes, like waking up earlier, exercising in the mornings, meditating and reading. I drew closer to God and started going to Church because I knew that my spiritual side of my life was lacking and I was replacing it with things that no longer made me feel good.

So the point of my story is I had to reach a point where I was tired of complaining and feeling unhappy and make positive changes to get to my happy place again. Where I see, I do have a purpose on this earth and may not be defined in a career path or in my relationship status or anything worldly but that my happiness lies within me my thoughts my actions and how I choose to see the world.

It is so easy to look at the news and all the bad that is happening in the world and think you can’t do anything about it, but if more people changed there mindset, collectively we can do a hell of a lot more than we think we can.

So my New Year New Me message to the world is to set yourself free, I am living proof that a few positive changes can make so much difference to living a healthier more fulfilled life. I even challenged myself to start Muay Thai, and if you know me at all you would be laughing right about now even the instructor with hardly any English knows how to say I hurt his eyes! I learned to let go and try new things a month in, and I am still at it and actually enjoying it who would have guessed.

So go out there and Make 2018 the year you set yourself FREE!!!

Let me know how this year has been thus far and any changes you are making I would like to connect with you all.

Peace Love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

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My thoughts for you for the New Year!

May you take this new year as a new opportunity to try again. Make 2018 the year you set yourself free, free from self-doubt sabotaging thoughts and toxic messes.

Let go of what you cant control, people that bring you down bad relationships that bring out the worst in you.

Let go of fear, for fear is stopping you from all your wildest dreams.Ditch the comfort restraints and start living. Be you, your true authentic self.

Let this be the year you do something you never thought you physically could,may that mean going on your first overseas trip, may that mean running your first half marathon or even something as simple as giving a stranger a smile.

May this year be the year you stop dreaming and start doing. May this be the year you dance through life living loudly not to show off but to be free.

May each changing season inspire you to dream bigger and conquer a fear. May this year be the year you are still and listen to the desires of your heart and set your own soul alight.

May this be the year you live fearlessly not afraid to love deeply and care sincerely. May this be the year you shine brighter than before but don’t fight because when the challanges do come you will be strong in your own strength to defeat even the tallest mountains standing before you.

Yes, as you’re reading this never for a second think you are worthless or you don’t matter because I know there is good in you and even when you don’t believe it or that self-doubt returns remember you are uniquely made crafted with gifts only you have and you have the power to change your destiny. The answers live inside you so start with loving yourself so much you have to share that burning desire to love another.

So these are just a few of my thoughts for you… I hope they make you reflect and make you believe that 2018 can be the year you set yourself free.

As we enter this New Years weekend wherever you are and however you celebrate be safe and Happy New Year!

2018 the year you set yourself FREE!!

 

Peace Love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

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My Thoughts for the New Year!

I want to live free of condemnation, free from fear, free from shame and free from guilt.

I want joy and love to come from my most vulnerable self because this is when I am free to be my authentic self.

I want to to be able to walk into a room with the confidence within that can light it up without a word, I want my love and joy to explode from my inner core. I want to see and feel things that even my wildest dreams could not imagine, I want freedom of the social norms without pressures from anyone.

I want to feel content with my life choices and allow them to lead me where I am needed where my trust is without borders.

I want to allow myself to love deeply, love myself, my family, my friends and any stranger that comes my way.

I want to walk barefoot across the earth and feel every inch of it in my toes, I want the wind to blow through my hair and feel sun kisses and raindrop sprinkles.

I want to fall deeply and madly in love with life, even in the mundane routines of life. I want to go to sleep every night thanking the one most high for the gift of the day and wake up every morning thanking him again for giving me each new day.

I want my love for writing to flourish as this gift I have of words are from above and not be afraid of who may read but be encouraged to share and inspire. I want to use all of me to do good and live an obedient life and even when I slip up I want to ask for forgiveness and graciously pick myself up to start all again.

I want to free myself of worry when the year takes its low turn I want to learn from every lesson, listen carefully to every soul, I want this year ahead to show me I am worth every breath I take and that caring for myself looking after every muscle is important to maintain good health.

I want to practice self-reflection strive for every goal and live whimsically in my dreams and turn them into reality. I want to be wiser and live freer but most importantly I want to live out my God-given mission by filling this world with some love and some hope.

So my thoughts may be dreamy but very practical I want to hold myself accountable this year not to give up so easily.This year ahead will mean change but I am praying for a good change one that will invigorate my spirit and give me the life I will be proud of and put me on the right path to keep walking out my heavenly Father’s plan.

 

Peace Love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

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My Thoughts This Festive Season

As we head into the Christmas weekend full of festive cheer I was thinking of this time of year as I make plans to meet with friends and do my last minute Christmas shopping.  These are my thoughts for this festive time.

My thoughts for this festive season are with you near and far.

For I know how it feels to be alone around this time of year, away from what you may normally do or around the people you usually spend these festive times with.

So my thoughts are with you when you feeling lonely or sad come Christmas morning I hope you don’t dwell on the loneliness the holidays can bring.

My thoughts are with you those that don’t get to spend this time with family or friends but if you have the time tell them you care.

My thoughts are with you the one that wakes up alone again and longs for that partner to share the special holidays with. Remember your worth is not measured by the fact that you may be single come again another Christmas day.

My thoughts are with you the child without parents the child that will never know how it feels to rise full of excitement on Christmas day or struggling to sleep on Christmas eve.

My thoughts are with you the ones that are old and cannot enjoy a Christmas meal because the pain is just unreal.

My thoughts are with you the ones forced to miss another family moment because of work obligations I hope your family can see all you have done to sacrifice for them.

My thoughts are with those who get to enjoy special family moments cherish these times together make them happy make them count for tomorrow is never promised.

So my thoughts are with you all however you spend this festive time I pray its good and not sad but most of all I wish you all a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

 

Peace Love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

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My First 547.5 Days in Korea!

I have wanted to write this for ages but just didn’t know where to start you know… So much has happened in the last year and a half that I still don’t quite know how to put that all together but anyways here is my attempt.

When I arrived and settled into my city made a few friends reconnected with old I felt like I belonged somewhere for the first time ever. Many of my nights were a blur too much partying and having a good time one would say, but I loved every crazy moment of the emotional roller coaster I was on. I was happy, and I was becoming more and more the person I am today. My last year in my 20’s young wild and free, I traveled to many amazing Korean cities from the North (not North Korea) to the south and everything in between.

Every weekend was another festival or adventure (nothing much has changed it still is) This is what I like about living here no time is wasted. I do get exhausted and feel I need a break from my own life but this is living to me from camping trips to the beach to international music festivals in Seoul life here is good, and the people I have met are great.

Then you get the sad goodbyes because the reality of this life is nothing is stable you continue living an unstable life trying to somewhat be stable. But just like life where ever or however you choose to live it nothing is guaranteed even in the mundane routine of life, change is inevitable and will happen when you prepared or not.

This past year also brought so much joy my best friend from home got to visit me earlier this year and my cousin not too long ago, so that was amazing getting to show them the life I have made for myself here. I also got to marry my best friends in the most amazing impromptu beautiful lesbian wedding ever. I have never felt so much love in one room and a memory I will cherish dearly forever. Even though the marriage is not legal, it was real to everyone present in that place.

What else happened in this past year, after my extreme high I hit real low questioning life should I stay or should go.I decided to stay, and I know financially that was the smart move.I don’t have much of a plan moving forward if I choose to leave I want to be financially stable on my own. So I have stepped up the saving game, so when I do go, I have a nest egg to fall on where ever my journey may lead me.

I also went to Malaysia a short but well-needed trip as I did not get a break between contracts more about that in another post.

The best news yet I gifted my mom with a trip to visit she came in October during Chuseok Korean Thanks, Giving. It lined up perfectly giving us a week off including two weekends. I spent a few days in Seoul showing my mom the best spots and boy did she love the shopping, don’t think she was a fan of all the walking we did. We did a few day trips to Gyeongju and Namhae my favorite little island and then spent a great weekend in Busan. It was great two weeks bonding with my mom and showing her the life I have made for myself here.

So yip this year was challenging work is still treating me fine and generally, I am happy. I miss my friends that have left and the year, and a half that has passed, but I am excited to see what the next few months have in store for me and maybe some more clarity on what to do when this year draws to a close. But for now, I will continue to live life loudly and proudly because every day on this earth is a gift from God. So I am thankful for my last couple of hundred days grateful for family visits, friends, skiing for the first time dancing and laughing until my tummy hurts. Thank You, Korea!

Peace Love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

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The Philippines an Enlightening Trip

The Philippines an enlightening trip; I saw glimpses of the person I was and the person I am while seeing who I was becoming. I have traveled near and far for a long time now I have opened myself to the full experience of travel. I let people in, I make fast friends with people I will never see again sometimes not even catching a name as we pass by as strangers in the night!

But this trip was a fast one I didn’t have loads of time to do as I please but I didn’t do too much either. I spent more time with me truly with me even when I was with others I just wanted to be with me. This is why this trip was so different, I needed this break more than I knew I did!

 Last year was a hard year 6 months questioning life and 6 months living life in fast forward! This trip was the universe telling me to slow down take stock of where you have come and where you going and truly start loving you and be present! Being so busy for the last  7 months I experienced every emotion in this whirlwind of life in Korea I started lacking true motivation life was starting to be lived for me and I was just in for the ride!

I had one of those deep connections with someone by a chance call it the universe sending the right person in at the right time.

I didn’t know my Soul craved a deep connection someone that knew what I was thinking before I uttered the words and vice versa that unexplainable connection that’s so real and so deep it’s scary! How can two people with very different stories but be so much the same just connect in such a profound way thats the beauty of travel.

I remember staring at the night sky and it was as if the sky was performing for me never have I seen the twinkling stars shine so bright. I was awestruck lost in the beauty of the world I felt so big and small all at once!! As the wind blew through my hair as I sat at the back of a friends motorcycle I watched the stars dance for me filling the sky with its beauty!

As the night progressed first we were strangers but in the end, we were so much more! We spoke about life, love, happiness, sadness and everything in between fuelling each other’s tanks that needed motivation and inspiration!And that was just one serendipitous day.

Like I said I only had one week in this beautiful country and I spent one night in Manila then flew to  Palawan. I took a bus up to El Nido a delayed flight and my van to El Nido knocking a couple on a motorcycle delayed my arrival by at least 3 hours. Standing on the side of the street in the middle of nowhere waiting for the police to get to the scene.Luckily I wasn’t alone I was with a group of great Irish guys also on vacation heading to the same spot.So we were all confused luckily nobody was badly injured and eventually headed to our destination. So a casual 5-hour journey turned into 10.(welcome to my travel life.)

I stayed at the best hostel I have ever stayed at called Outpost Beach Hostel recently opened the sad part was they were still busy with renovations so I will have to go back when it’s completed. This place is right on the beach they serve a killer breakfast and the staff are a bunch of eclectic nomads made up of some good looking guys with great stories to tell from all over the world. They also give you a free shot of the famous Filipino rum at sunset so make sure to stay for that. I stayed here for 3 nights spent one day island hopping booked through the hostel another at Nacpan Beach and the third day chilling about and then missioned off to Port Barton for 2 nights.

Port Barton is your quintessential small beach town. luckily I was told about the no electricity during the day and I was used to the cold showers by now and really bad wifi. It was just great to unplug and soak up the beauty and quiet. Going to sleep listening to the waves, waking up and watching the sun kiss the beach was great. Here I also did another island hopping tour snorkeled and sunbathed ate an awesome meal on the beach saw the biggest starfish ever it was great day making new friends too.

I finally got time to relax, read, take pictures, go for walks and be alone with no noise around me no crazy nights out and hardly any drinks. Just the escape I needed from the freezing snowy Korea. and just like that my time was up I flew back to Manila for one night before heading back to Korea and jumping into my year.

Peace love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

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My festive season hopscotching through Korea!

Where have I been? (good question) I have been living life in the fast lane but its time to get back to this sharing some tid bits from my life abroad and other travel and inspirations that inspire me to write. I promise to be better at updating I have big hopes and dreams for this blog I best get the started no more excuses. So here we go first of many posts I have lined up. To set the scene let’s go back in time to about  Late December early January.

My festive season, it was such a crazy month of hop scotch through Korea as if I was the KTX going at high speed!

Started off with a 12 pubs of Christmas bar crawl singing Christmas carols in the streets of Downtown Daegu a week before Christmas and then my Christmas spent in Cheongju with my girls we dubbed it “Queensmas”it was a fun weekend we even had a proper Christmas meal from turkey to roast beef and all the trimmings.

 My first Christmas in years that felt like Christmas from gifts to the food and the friends that felt like family!! 

Then my best friend from home came for a visit it was great to have a piece of home with me and show her around! We celebrated New Years in Busan lit lanterns on the beach (clearly a new tradition of mine) and danced the night away making new friends and great memories! Needless to say, a very hungover New Year’s Day was filled with tons of greasy food and laughs about the night before.

The next week I had to work but it was nice coming home and taking my friend for walks and listening to her tell me about new discoveries she found wandering the streets of my new home she even got a cheeky tattoo from the infamous Daegu Tattoo from Artist K who speaks no English and has a side guy who does all the speaking this place is very well known especially around the expat community.

I was so proud to see her get lost and dive into a very foreign country nothing like South Africa or the touristy stops that everyone is used to. She got to truly experience my new life and made really good memories.

We spent our last weekend in Seoul shopping eating way too much and buying all the crazy Korean socks! As soon as she arrived she left again but we had great fun!

One of the highlights was having her here for my birthday too she really did spoil me from breakfast to gifts and it really made me feel special. The last thing anyone wants on their birthday is to be alone and even better I had my best friend from home. I am not a big Birthday person but it was nice to have a low-key Korean BBQ and drinks with my close friends.

And just like that the year was kicked off at record breaking fast speed I didn’t even know what was happening all while working our extended hours because my hogwan (korean after-school academy) does a winter camp program while the kids are on their winter break.

While I was truly happy and living life I was burning out quick trying to burn the candle on both ends of the stick in my social and work life. I needed to pause take stock and get out of the depressing cold so what did I do I hopped on a plane to the Phillippines for a week of rejuvenation more about that soon.

Peace love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

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