The Philippines an Enlightening Trip

The Philippines an enlightening trip; I saw glimpses of the person I was and the person I am while seeing who I was becoming. I have traveled near and far for a long time now I have opened myself to the full experience of travel. I let people in, I make fast friends with people I will never see again sometimes not even catching a name as we pass by as strangers in the night!

But this trip was a fast one I didn’t have loads of time to do as I please but I didn’t do too much either. I spent more time with me truly with me even when I was with others I just wanted to be with me. This is why this trip was so different, I needed this break more than I knew I did!

 Last year was a hard year 6 months questioning life and 6 months living life in fast forward! This trip was the universe telling me to slow down take stock of where you have come and where you going and truly start loving you and be present! Being so busy for the last  7 months I experienced every emotion in this whirlwind of life in Korea I started lacking true motivation life was starting to be lived for me and I was just in for the ride!

I had one of those deep connections with someone by a chance call it the universe sending the right person in at the right time.

I didn’t know my Soul craved a deep connection someone that knew what I was thinking before I uttered the words and vice versa that unexplainable connection that’s so real and so deep it’s scary! How can two people with very different stories but be so much the same just connect in such a profound way thats the beauty of travel.

I remember staring at the night sky and it was as if the sky was performing for me never have I seen the twinkling stars shine so bright. I was awestruck lost in the beauty of the world I felt so big and small all at once!! As the wind blew through my hair as I sat at the back of a friends motorcycle I watched the stars dance for me filling the sky with its beauty!

As the night progressed first we were strangers but in the end, we were so much more! We spoke about life, love, happiness, sadness and everything in between fuelling each other’s tanks that needed motivation and inspiration!And that was just one serendipitous day.

Like I said I only had one week in this beautiful country and I spent one night in Manila then flew to  Palawan. I took a bus up to El Nido a delayed flight and my van to El Nido knocking a couple on a motorcycle delayed my arrival by at least 3 hours. Standing on the side of the street in the middle of nowhere waiting for the police to get to the scene.Luckily I wasn’t alone I was with a group of great Irish guys also on vacation heading to the same spot.So we were all confused luckily nobody was badly injured and eventually headed to our destination. So a casual 5-hour journey turned into 10.(welcome to my travel life.)

I stayed at the best hostel I have ever stayed at called Outpost Beach Hostel recently opened the sad part was they were still busy with renovations so I will have to go back when it’s completed. This place is right on the beach they serve a killer breakfast and the staff is a bunch of eclectic nomads made up of some good looking guys with great stories to tell from all over the world. They also give you a free shot of the famous Filipino rum at sunset so make sure to stay for that. I stayed here for 3 nights spent one day island hopping booked through the hostel another at Nacpan Beach and the third day chilling about and then missioned off to Port Barton for 2 nights.

Port Barton is your quintessential small beach town. luckily I was told about the no electricity during the day and I was used to the cold showers by now and really bad wifi. It was just great to unplug and soak up the beauty and quiet. Going to sleep listening to the waves, waking up and watching the sun kiss the beach was great. Here I also did another island hopping tour snorkeled and sunbathed ate an awesome meal on the beach saw the biggest starfish ever it was great day making new friends too.

I finally got time to relax, read, take pictures, go for walks and be alone with no noise around me no crazy nights out and hardly any drinks. Just the escape I needed from the freezing snowy Korea. and just like that my time was up I flew back to Manila for one night before heading back to Korea and jumping into my year.

Peace love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

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My festive season hopscotching through Korea!

Where have I been? (good question) I have been living life in the fast lane but its time to get back to this sharing some tid bits from my life abroad and other travel and inspirations that inspire me to write. I promise to be better at updating I have big hopes and dreams for this blog I best get the started no more excuses. So here we go first of many posts I have lined up. To set the scene let’s go back in time to about  Late December early January.

My festive season, it was such a crazy month of hop scotch through Korea as if I was the KTX going at high speed!

Started off with a 12 pubs of Christmas bar crawl singing Christmas carols in the streets of Downtown Daegu a week before Christmas and then my Christmas spent in Cheongju with my girls we dubbed it “Queensmas”it was a fun weekend we even had a proper Christmas meal from turkey to roast beef and all the trimmings.

 My first Christmas in years that felt like Christmas from gifts to the food and the friends that felt like family!! 

Then my best friend from home came for a visit it was great to have a piece of home with me and show her around! We celebrated New Years in Busan lit lanterns on the beach (clearly a new tradition of mine) and danced the night away making new friends and great memories! Needless to say, a very hungover New Year’s Day was filled with tons of greasy food and laughs about the night before.

The next week I had to work but it was nice coming home and taking my friend for walks and listening to her tell me about new discoveries she found wandering the streets of my new home she even got a cheeky tattoo from the infamous Daegu Tattoo from Artist K who speaks no English and has a side guy who does all the speaking this place is very well known especially around the expat community.

I was so proud to see her get lost and dive into a very foreign country nothing like South Africa or the touristy stops that everyone is used to. She got to truly experience my new life and made really good memories.

We spent our last weekend in Seoul shopping eating way too much and buying all the crazy Korean socks! As soon as she arrived she left again but we had great fun!

One of the highlights was having her here for my birthday too she really did spoil me from breakfast to gifts and it really made me feel special. The last thing anyone wants on their birthday is to be alone and even better I had my best friend from home. I am not a big Birthday person but it was nice to have a low-key Korean BBQ and drinks with my close friends.

And just like that the year was kicked off at record breaking fast speed I didn’t even know what was happening all while working our extended hours because my hogwan (korean after-school academy) does a winter camp program while the kids are on their winter break.

While I was truly happy and living life I was burning out quick trying to burn the candle on both ends of the stick in my social and work life. I needed to pause take stock and get out of the depressing cold so what did I do I hopped on a plane to the Phillippines for a week of rejuvenation more about that soon.

Peace love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

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Goodbye 2016- A Year in Review

So it’s that time of the year where things come to an end and we reflect on what life has been in 2016! Globally it’s been an interesting year politics world wide going crazy and so many influential people dying! To me it’s just a reminder that we not in control and that there is a bigger things happening in this world and we all put here to play our parts!!

Personally this year my last year in my twenties has been one crazy adventure!! It feels like just yesterday I was celebrating  2016 on a beach in Thailand with my family and best friend I took off and returned home feeling extremely anxious and excited.Celebrated my first birthday with my family in ages with a traditional SA Braai and then partied the night away with my best girlfriends it felt like a world wind dream!

Then reality set in and my crazy adventures came crashing down, I was 29 unemployed, no plans, feeling really depressed, moved back in with the parents and a house full of people. It was tough but the time I needed to use to make plans, do I stay or do I go again!

Fast forward 6 months at home and an overweight Thalea because I indulged in all moms cooking lol! I found myself setting up shop in Korea it quickly became my new home! I haven’t been happier I mean I have my ups and downs but being here had never felt so right!! I have traveled to about 10 different Korean cities that I absolutely love and my appreciation for the underrated beauty of this place has filled me with so much joy!

The people I have met have just made this journey even better I have learned to love myself more and truly love others. I have opened my closed self up to a new world and its only because I took that giant step to return to the unknown. I have laughed until I have cried and cried until I couldn’t cry anymore.I have learnt that in this fast moving world you have to put yourself first and that you can’t depend on others for anything. Those that want to be in your life will be and you don’t have to force anything!! I have made real friends that are like my family and this is the best part of travelling and living abroad for me.

I have no clue what 2017 holds I don’t know where I will be but I do know I am ready, ready to be older a tad more responsible and to start this new chapter! They say life gets better in your thirties right!

So Happy New Year to all I hope that this year has taught you many things and that you are ready for new things in 2017!!

Peace love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

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The Fuck Boy the Hot Girl and the Friend Zone!

We live in a delusional, made up superficial, social media fake world! Where the fuck boy rules, the hot girl scores and the friend zone is real. It’s like the high school chick flick of the new age! You sit watching from the outside and see what’s going on its a joke.

 It’s hard trying to date in this era where dating isn’t OK open relationships, one night stands and no strings attached is the norm. You try finding a future wife or husband in this day and age it’s like looking for the mysterious pot of gold at the end of the rainbow virtually impossible.

The nice guy the guy that’s the gentleman that believes that chivalry isn’t dead that love is real not something you say when listening to your favorite song or eating your favorite meal. But the love you experience when you meet a potential soul mate the real kind of I can’t eat, can’t sleep, love that love that will weather every storm. It’s unspoken of because heaven forbids you say the L word that’s not cool or start catching them feelings as the kids on the streets refer to it these days.

 Those people exist though and do you want to know where you will find them? I ‘ll give you one guess. In the friend zone! Every fuck boy has a girl best friend who has been crushing so hard she’s settled for the FZone praying secretly for that one day when his done being a stupid fuck boy and he will notice her. Vice versa the hottest girl at the party will have a guy bestie secretly crushing on her, and so the vicious cycle goes.

For those that do find that love hold on to it, cherish it, be kind to each other, respect each other and communicate with each other! Getting back in the dating world is hard work, and  nobody is ready for if you have been out of the game for awhile.

Where do I find myself in this tangled mess of dating in the new age you may ask? I am the girl that gets friend zoned I am the girl who friends zones at times. For ages I was oblivious to this world called dating just living vicariously through my girlfriends love lives and to be honest, it just felt like too much work!

 So I live my life, I never go out with the intention of finding anyone. I enjoy my life to the fullest, and through finding myself, I seem to be the hot girl at the party. I am not though, I am confident at times, I am far from perfect but I love the person I am becoming, I make my rules and yes I fall into the traps of the new age dating world at times.

When you figure out what you want and just live your best life people will notice you. You will attract the best people into your life, and if you lucky you may find that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow the trick is not to compromise who you are to fit into this delusional cesspool of new age dating.

Once you know your worth, you will see that the hot girl at the party and the fuck boys of this world are just as lonely as the peeps in the friend zone! 

So if you single AF don’t hate it focus on you have fun do all the things you want to do while you have the freedom of being single. Life is great alone and with someone but only when you love yourself are you capable of loving another. So that’s why we have this delusional world of dating right now it’s because people don’t believe they good enough for themselves and they go out to fill a void by hooking up with as many people as they can.

Excuse my profanities in the title and in this piece I don’t usually swear but this just wouldn’t give this piece the correct dramatic effect without it.

I hope you enjoyed my view on dating in this day and age. Interested to hear what you think? let me know in the comments below.I will be back with some travel updates soon, Thanks for reading!

 

Peace love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

 

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When God Sends you Unicorns!

I never openly write about Christianity you will find reference to God in my writing because I believe in God I was brought up in the church as I went to Sunday school had the perfect grandma who read me bible stories, so God was never foreign to me my entire life!

I went astray from the church as I got older life happens things change but by the glory of God I am here today!  Just because I strayed from the church didn’t mean God left me! I was a church seat filler for s few years or the few times I would go to church words falling on deaf ears mostly. Until I went to a different church, and slowly my ears opened and things started to make more sense to me and worship music was good things were good God started planting seeds in my life, I still wasn’t fully there yet, but he never gave up on me like he never gives up you!

He led me to China the place that I never wanted to go to do a job I didn’t think I could do but he led me there it’s only by his mercies it worked out for the best! I then I said lead me where you need me, and I ended up here South Korea 6 months after my 15-month adventure around South East Asia!

Now I sit and think what’s my purpose here am I doing a good job since he led me here! I have changed for the better because of him something is going right. I am by no means a good Christian I don’t think you get one because you can’t be perfect only God can be perfect.I sin daily I say words I should not, I eat too much, sometimes drink too much I find myself gossiping and be judgmental which I hate but do these bad things make me a bad person? NO

No, it doesn’t because I sin and pray and talk to God to help me in these areas doesn’t take away that I am kind loyal honest friendly forgiving happy awesome and beautiful the way he made me! So I can’t deny for one minute I am not a daughter of a mighty God I can’t doubt he made me a queen, a strong independent women it’s not me its all him. I will never try to make you a believer or bible bash you into believing in my King but if you spend some time with me and you like me know that I am not this great on my own I am this great because God made me this way and finally saying it out loud and proudly,I am daughter a queen of God!!’

Sometimes God blesses you with unicorn moments or unicorns just to show you his alive and watching over you . I don’t strive to be perfect because I will never be but the day I decided to eliminate my life from the BS and be 100% me,myself life changed and even if you don’t believe in a God or you believe in your version of God through me I can make you believe in something!!

Peace love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

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The One that made me Believe in Love Again!

For the longest time, I was afraid to completely open myself up to even the possibility of loving someone in a romantic way allowing my past to scar my future and that’s not ok.

It had taken me two failed long term relationships I had at a very young age and six years to leave me, so heartbroken I was afraid to love again actually! I mean love in all ways 100% love myself and 100% love all the relationships I have made old and new from friendships to strangers or the potential love interest.

There is a part of me so locked up I don’t  even have the key to unlocking it.Until I went on this journey of self-discovery.

I had to push myself to be more uncomfortable with my surroundings to fully understand the magnitude of what I am capable of doing; I had to push myself to be vulnerable and be ok before I could truly be ok with my flaws and accept that, that makes me who I am!

Today I love myself and believe in me so much so that I bring happiness to others because I am happy with who I am becoming!

I feel as if that section of my heart is slowly unlocking itself. I still have lots of work to do, but I am starting now to love freely openly and kindly because I allowed myself to be me 100% me and I am not afraid anymore (ok I am a little scared but I guess doing something that scares you is what life is about right.)

There was one unique individual soul who recently came into my life and gave me a glimpse of hope that not all people want to rob me of my happiness and steal my love but add to it and that made me believe in love again! My deep friendships and connections with people changed right away I felt this unleash of love for everything as if the floodgates has just been opened.

I have that I can’t eat can’t sleep kinda feeling for I am in love with life, and you may not know it, but I thank you, for you are the one that made me love again!

People  definitely come into your life for a reason some stay forever and some come to show you things you never knew existed or just to  make you a better version of yourself.

I haven’t had the urge to write recently until last week when I shared how my life abroad changed me so I  hope this writing phase comes back for good again! I hope you all reading this are enjoying my  deeper life journey more so than my travel journey which will be returning soon. I have been to so many beautiful places since I  have entered South Korea so please stay tuned for that.

Check out my Instagram  Thals01 and my Snapchat Iamthalea to see more regular daily updates if that’s your thing. Lastly thanks for those that read follow and comment it makes my day!!

Peace love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

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How My life has changed after two years living abroad!

When I decided to leave home about two years ago, it wasn’t an easy decision but one I am euphoric I made. I don’t think I would have experienced or become the person I am today if I had not have left home in September of 2014.

Now one year out of China and 5 Asian countries explored I am extremely grateful and do not regret my decision for one minute.

I remember the person I was two years ago heading into the unknown afraid but masking it by putting on a brave face.Heaven forbid I let my parents and family see my fear as I head into China a country we do not know very much about other than the fact it is extremely far from anything we are used to. Fast forward one year, I learnt to teach, I grew in confidence with being around children.( something I was not confident in), I managed to communicate in a new language, travel around China speak to many different people and make amazing real relationships with the best people.

As eager as I was to leave and try something new I was not prepared to leave a place so unfamiliar but an area that had served as home and the friends I had made my new family. Filled with tears of sadness but tears of excitement it was a strange time.

China was just stepping stone in my bigger picture I had no idea how China had prepared me for life outside of China until that day I packed up all my belongings and left for the greater unknown.

China taught me never to give up especially when the going gets tough.

China taught me to be confident.

China taught me to be strong.

China taught me to be brave.

China taught me to stop hiding.

China taught me patience.

Slowly as the year manifested and did its thing full of ups and downs I left with my head held high and the confidence knowing I hacked China for a year one of the hardest places to live.

I remember leaving for Hong Kong feeling like I was superwomen like I had some magical power. As if I was in prison for a year and finally saw the sunshine (ok not that dramatic but you catch my drift) I was sole alone just me against the world needing to figure out how I was going to travel around Asia for three months, and I wasn’t afraid of anything. I would not be able to do this if it wasn’t for the lessons I had learnt in China.

I ventured through Asia for three months came out with a few scrapes and bruises a few hospital visits but alive living the best version of myself. I had appreciated everything the beauty I saw was indescribable the joy I felt was magical. The saying hard work pays off became real I was so proud of myself for reaching this point. The best part was that my true happiness I was feeling on the inside showed on my face in my confidence to strike up conversations with random people. The law of attraction to bring the best people into my life at the right time made me believe more and more in the mighty God I serve.

I believe now more than ever that God has a plan for my life I don’t know my end destination, but I love that this journey has brought me to now South Korea. It wasn’t an easy task after having the beast journey and going home seeing all my loved ones. Getting to eat everything I missed and do all the things I told all the travellers I met to do when they visit Cape Town. It was good. The high I was on quickly subsided and felt depressed again. 28 with no job living at home with mum and dad it did depress me but also it motivated me not to give up on the dream I just lived.

It has lead me here to this very apartment where I live by myself still living an incredible adventure all while giving back to the kids I teach every day.

China has prepared me so much for South Korea I am a confident teacher, teaching and talking to kids is easy for me now and the job is easy compared to how I struggled back in China. Travelling around a country where I don’t speak the language is a piece of cake it is still frustrating from time to time, but I am so used to it it’s normal for me now. I am just more confident in myself and the people I have met have been special blessings in my life.

I am only 3months in, and I feel I have done and seen so much. Not for one second have I doubted my decision to be exactly where I am.  I thank you, China for leading me here and I thank God for keeping me safe and showing me I am on the right path.

Let’s see where this journey shall take me!!

Peace love & Happiness

Cherry ♥

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