The Fuck Boy the Hot Girl and the Friend Zone!

We live in a delusional, made up superficial, social media fake world! Where the fuck boy rules, the hot girl scores and the friend zone is real. It’s like the high school chick flick of the new age! You sit watching from the outside and see what’s going on its a joke.

 It’s hard trying to date in this era where dating isn’t OK open relationships, one night stands and no strings attached is the norm. You try finding a future wife or husband in this day and age it’s like looking for the mysterious pot of gold at the end of the rainbow virtually impossible.

The nice guy the guy that’s the gentleman that believes that chivalry isn’t dead that love is real not something you say when listening to your favorite song or eating your favorite meal. But the love you experience when you meet a potential soul mate the real kind of I can’t eat, can’t sleep, love that love that will weather every storm. It’s unspoken of because heaven forbids you say the L word that’s not cool or start catching them feelings as the kids on the streets refer to it these days.

 Those people exist though and do you want to know where you will find them? I ‘ll give you one guess. In the friend zone! Every fuck boy has a girl best friend who has been crushing so hard she’s settled for the FZone praying secretly for that one day when his done being a stupid fuck boy and he will notice her. Vice versa the hottest girl at the party will have a guy bestie secretly crushing on her, and so the vicious cycle goes.

For those that do find that love hold on to it, cherish it, be kind to each other, respect each other and communicate with each other! Getting back in the dating world is hard work, and  nobody is ready for if you have been out of the game for awhile.

Where do I find myself in this tangled mess of dating in the new age you may ask? I am the girl that gets friend zoned I am the girl who friends zones at times. For ages I was oblivious to this world called dating just living vicariously through my girlfriends love lives and to be honest, it just felt like too much work!

 So I live my life, I never go out with the intention of finding anyone. I enjoy my life to the fullest, and through finding myself, I seem to be the hot girl at the party. I am not though, I am confident at times, I am far from perfect but I love the person I am becoming, I make my rules and yes I fall into the traps of the new age dating world at times.

When you figure out what you want and just live your best life people will notice you. You will attract the best people into your life, and if you lucky you may find that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow the trick is not to compromise who you are to fit into this delusional cesspool of new age dating.

Once you know your worth, you will see that the hot girl at the party and the fuck boys of this world are just as lonely as the peeps in the friend zone! 

So if you single AF don’t hate it focus on you have fun do all the things you want to do while you have the freedom of being single. Life is great alone and with someone but only when you love yourself are you capable of loving another. So that’s why we have this delusional world of dating right now it’s because people don’t believe they good enough for themselves and they go out to fill a void by hooking up with as many people as they can.

Excuse my profanities in the title and in this piece I don’t usually swear but this just wouldn’t give this piece the correct dramatic effect without it.

I hope you enjoyed my view on dating in this day and age. Interested to hear what you think? let me know in the comments below.I will be back with some travel updates soon, Thanks for reading!


Peace love & Happiness

Cherry ♥




My Travel Tips for Vietnam

As I promised some tips to hack Vietnam on a budget and still have the best time of your life!

I started off in the Hanoi and worked my way down to Ho Chi Minh City.
Tip one the most tricky thing when going to any country is the currency. In Vietnam, you are a millionaire well in Dong, the currency they use. 1million dong is approximately $50 US. So be smart with your money or you will get ripped off.

If you are backpacking, I suggest staying in the backpacker areas so everything you need is within walking distance and you won’t be spending money on taxis. In Hanoi, it’s called the old quarter, and I highly recommend staying at Hanoi Rocks undoubtedly the best hostel I stayed in, in Vietnam.

It has everything amazing big beds big locker space its clean, amazing chill area with bar and restaurant including free beer for 2 hours and breakfast if you wake up in time. They have a gig guide of different events every night perfect location for a solo traveler around free beer o’clock the place livens up, and everyone becomes friends. It is also on the night market street so it can be very crazy over weekends but such a good vibe. They also have a travel desk where you can book trips and bus or train tickets.

Tours to do in the area that’s a must is Halong Bay and Sapa. I suggest you go from agency to agency to get a good deal and get your haggle game on.
I did one night two days Halong bay all meals and activities are included. You get kayaking cave exploring beach time a cooking class dinner and karaoke and fishing the next day breakfast, a trip to an oyster farm and lunch before heading back to Hanoi.

Sapa I did two nights one night in a homestay and one night Hotel. The first day you do a 6-hour trek in the rice fields up to the homestay. Next day half day trek to beautiful waterfalls and back to the beautiful city of Sapa. The third day half day trek to a village called. Cat Cat village. More beautiful rice fields and waterfalls a local dancing show and lots of things to buy everywhere.
For both tours, I paid $120 US that I quickly realized was too much but for five days including all meals accommodation and transport not bad at all but you can get it cheaper.

Another Gem I found thanks to a local friend the best massage I have ever had a place called the foot massage in Hanoi it was so great oil hot stone and Thai all in one!
I then headed to Da Nang on sleeper bus I sprained my ankle and was very lucky to meet a lovely Vietnamese girl who took me in for a few days. So I had my own Vietnamese family for a week that was so awesome.
Another good tip check out couchsurfing and try and meet some locals they are all awesome, and most of the locals want to practice English with you. Some people may even offer you free accommodation.

My number 1 spot in Vietnam is Hoi An about 40km outside of Da Nang! A smaller little beach town that totally comes alive at night with beautiful lanterns so many things to buy you will want to buy it all. If you love shopping or fashion amazing seamstresses that can do anything in a day for cheap too. A good place to stay in Hoi An is the Sunflower hostel with a swimming pool it’s a little pricey $8 a night but there are plenty  cheaper in the area, and you can always use the pool.

I, unfortunately, due to my ankle I missed out Dalat Na Trang and Mu Nie places I have to go back to visit.
I then went to Ho Chi Minh City went to the Cu Chi tunnels and a cruise on the Mekong Delta.
I stayed at Hideout Hostel it’s nice also includes breakfast and two free beers in District 1 the backpacker area in walking distance of everything.
A surreal experience especially the tunnels listening to the war stories and even being in those tunnels for less then 5 minutes put things into perspective. I cannot believe people lived down there for years. Some heartbreaking stories but something I believe everyone should know about.
A good tip if you plan on doing Vietnam get the open bus ticket for $40 (try and haggle for that price its usually $50) it lasts for the month, and you can jump on and off, so it’s a great save.

The food where do I begin it’s all delicious, and the Coffee Vietnamese Coffee changed my life so strong and so good iced or warm it’s my favorite. The must try food pho noodle soup really good, and you can find it anywhere. Another great find is the Banh Mi a Vietnamese sandwich that beats SubWay. It’s a baguette with lettuce tomato cucumber shredded meat and cheese topped off with a source of your choice. I loved these things and they pretty cheap if you buy them off the street. Fresh or fried spring rolls amazing, and they have these places where you can make wraps with rice paper and add your veggies and meat fresh and tasty. One plus with Vietnamese food it’s mostly fresh and healthy not dripping in oil.

I truly loved my time in Vietnam and would recommend that anyone young and old should go.
Hope this helps give you an inside glimpse of Vietnam, and I hope you all visit. If you have any questions, don’t hesitate to give me a shout in the comments I am happy to help if I can.

Peace love and Happiness

Cherry ♥