The Fuck Boy the Hot Girl and the Friend Zone!

We live in a delusional, made up superficial, social media fake world! Where the fuck boy rules, the hot girl scores and the friend zone is real. It’s like the high school chick flick of the new age! You sit watching from the outside and see what’s going on its a joke.

 It’s hard trying to date in this era where dating isn’t OK open relationships, one night stands and no strings attached is the norm. You try finding a future wife or husband in this day and age it’s like looking for the mysterious pot of gold at the end of the rainbow virtually impossible.

The nice guy the guy that’s the gentleman that believes that chivalry isn’t dead that love is real not something you say when listening to your favorite song or eating your favorite meal. But the love you experience when you meet a potential soul mate the real kind of I can’t eat, can’t sleep, love that love that will weather every storm. It’s unspoken of because heaven forbids you say the L word that’s not cool or start catching them feelings as the kids on the streets refer to it these days.

 Those people exist though and do you want to know where you will find them? I ‘ll give you one guess. In the friend zone! Every fuck boy has a girl best friend who has been crushing so hard she’s settled for the FZone praying secretly for that one day when his done being a stupid fuck boy and he will notice her. Vice versa the hottest girl at the party will have a guy bestie secretly crushing on her, and so the vicious cycle goes.

For those that do find that love hold on to it, cherish it, be kind to each other, respect each other and communicate with each other! Getting back in the dating world is hard work, and  nobody is ready for if you have been out of the game for awhile.

Where do I find myself in this tangled mess of dating in the new age you may ask? I am the girl that gets friend zoned I am the girl who friends zones at times. For ages I was oblivious to this world called dating just living vicariously through my girlfriends love lives and to be honest, it just felt like too much work!

 So I live my life, I never go out with the intention of finding anyone. I enjoy my life to the fullest, and through finding myself, I seem to be the hot girl at the party. I am not though, I am confident at times, I am far from perfect but I love the person I am becoming, I make my rules and yes I fall into the traps of the new age dating world at times.

When you figure out what you want and just live your best life people will notice you. You will attract the best people into your life, and if you lucky you may find that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow the trick is not to compromise who you are to fit into this delusional cesspool of new age dating.

Once you know your worth, you will see that the hot girl at the party and the fuck boys of this world are just as lonely as the peeps in the friend zone! 

So if you single AF don’t hate it focus on you have fun do all the things you want to do while you have the freedom of being single. Life is great alone and with someone but only when you love yourself are you capable of loving another. So that’s why we have this delusional world of dating right now it’s because people don’t believe they good enough for themselves and they go out to fill a void by hooking up with as many people as they can.

Excuse my profanities in the title and in this piece I don’t usually swear but this just wouldn’t give this piece the correct dramatic effect without it.

I hope you enjoyed my view on dating in this day and age. Interested to hear what you think? let me know in the comments below.I will be back with some travel updates soon, Thanks for reading!


Peace love & Happiness

Cherry ♥




One World and We all Connected


Over the last few days, I have visited the airport three times to say goodbye to friends and family all embarking on separate travels off to America and Europe. With my travels coming soon too I realised how small this world is a few hours and many borders may separate us but with the ever evolving technology at our finger tips it doesn’t feel like we that far apart at all.

I have always been fascinated by travel and meeting new people, experiencing different cultures and learning new things. The journey that lead me to this point in my life where I sit looking at my room I have had most of my life and waiting on boxes to start packing and throwing things out actually brings a sadness to my heart.

Life as I know it  is going to drastically change and I still don’t think it has really sunk in but I am so ready for this next season in my life and brave is what I need to be to endure the next few months as China becomes my new home.

The things I will miss the most is the comforts of the familiarity, being able to jump in my car and know where I am going is going to be a thing of the past. Missing out on special once off moments will be sad. The fact that I won’t be here to cheer Courteney on as she competes in her dance competitions not seeing her battle through her final year of school not being here for her Matric balls and family weddings I will miss those moments the most.

It’s strange to think this is my last two weeks in Cape Town for a while, and the journey that lies ahead is one scary, but exciting journey that has taught me to work hard have patience and see things through. The real test is yet to come, but that’s an entirely new post for another day.

Peace love and Happiness

Cherry ♥

My Office for the Day – Net Phrophet



I hate that I have been so quite lately not because I do not have anything to say but only because I have been busy studying and this weekend I have classes all weekend, but I don’t want to jinx anything, and once I complete this course I will explain all.

I went to a pretty cool technology/ digital/start up /entrepreneurial conference on Wednesday called Net Prohpet. I had been to one before, and I remember the first time feeling like a kid in a candy store. Everything was fresh and new; the ideas of the industry were amazing the developments in the digital age fascinated me so much.

It was cool to be in a room filled with like-minded people and be wowed by the likes of the big players in the digital space like Ebay. The way they are changing the game in the retail space,I found that fascinating and interesting. I like that in this new digital age the focus is still solely on the customer but with innovative technology and fast forward thinking things are being done creatively. As Jody Ford, the vice President of Marketing for Ebay nicely said, “Customers want to get what they want when they want it wherever they are.” It may not be things we don’t already know, but it is a creative and innovative ways these companies are solving these problems.

Another strong point that came across loudly was how important the right education is, and every year Net Prophet raises funds for their bursary campaign to help send students to get educated. This year they partnered with an NGO Partners for Possibilities to help communities in need of education, not only do you have to donate money, but you can donate your time to help too. I also enjoyed seeing what Olgilvy Labs are doing internationally and how they are using education to create amazing things.

This conference also brought light into some areas I know not much about. Online gaming being another lucrative avenue and listening to how game development has taken off in South Africa was extremely fascinating especially using different distribution techniques to get your games to players instead of the conventional buy a game in the store route. This way it only gains momentum for the day of release and maybe for two weeks after. Compared to purchasing online directly cutting out distribution costs of a physical game and allowing people to pre-order and selling way more than you could have done by doing it the conventional way. This way the hype around your game also last much longer. The gamer community is huge, and real life feedback from gamers about your game is the best way to promote it keeping the experience as organic as possible and people are doing this online for nothing through blogging and vlogging. Bringing me back to the point, Jody Ford made “Customers want to get what they want when they want it wherever they are.”

With all the interesting talks about the industry conferences like this one that brings you good speakers and highlights the works happening locally and internationally motives and inspires you to get involved in some way, or another. It’s also awesome to be in an environment where smart thinking, giving back and developing start-ups is the way forward. Having a community like Net Phrophet share light on what is happening in this industry and helping start-ups with opportunities is a good way to harvest the talents in our country.

An event like this opens everyone’s eyes and makes them think and start asking interesting questions and also develop good ideas and connects you with companies and people doing amazing things you may not have been aware of if you have not attended.

Me specially feeling like  an outsider looking into this world of tech where I am still trying figure out things it was interesting it broaden my mind to many possibilities. A big thanks to company for affording me this opportunity to go be entertained and educated for the day.

Let me know your thoughts of where this digital world is going?

Peace love and Happiness

Cherry ♥

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Instagram weekly Wrap Up

Instagram Weekly Wrap Up

Above you can see my Instagram wrap up. I am a newbie to the wanders of Instagram. Not because I didn’t want to join the bandwagon when it first started only because my outdated cellphone denied my access.

Alas I have joined the world of smart technology with my new Samsung Galaxy S4 (so digging this phone.) As much as I want to claim that I am technologically savvy truth be told I am not. I don’t speak phone and apps but I am getting there slowly.

I love pictures and all things visually appealing to the eye. I am dying to get my hands on a new camera but too get my hands on what I want I will probably have to spend the little free time I do have washing cars (job no 4) to earn extra cash for that baby lol.

So the S4 will do for now and helped me capture some of these awesome Instagram shots. I watched a cool video about Instagram and thought it was very insightful,will add the video below. It is kinda tips on how to use Instagram. Your Instagram needs to tell a story. Like a visual storyboard to the world without saying too much. You know that old saying a picture speaks a thousand words. well to me your Instagram should encompass that saying with one glance. You should be able to tell what that person is all about, may it be friends, travel,food fashion,family hobbies etc or a combination of all of the above.(more than just endless selfies we get it ,you know how to take a picture of yourself lol)

I try to walk a different route to work in the morning trying to capture different hidden gems in the city that can come across visually interesting. Through this social platform it has transformed the way I see the world and what could look great in a picture, to share with the world. I have learnt so much about myself this year, my love for writing, helping, pictures, videos and now they way Instagram allows me to make even the ugly things beautiful.

Happy snapping beautiful people!


Cherry ♥